Implicit in the above, as in most perfectionist statements, is a comparison. Perfectionists will compare themselves to anyone—famous, obscure, living, dead—and on any criterion (looks, wealth, popularity, productivity, etc.).
They’ll even compare themselves to themselves at a higher level of performance (e.g., their productivity during peaceful times).
They’ll also compare themselves to an idealized version of how they think they should behave (e.g., "I should work with complete focus no matter how chaotic and stressful things are.")
And they’ll even compare themselves to singular historical geniuses! (Who also benefited from colonial wealth, massive amounts of what we now call white male privilege, and other advantages.)
Perfectionist comparisons hurt. In fact, they’re designed to hurt: to bully and shame you into working harder. But perfectionism never helps, and always makes things worse. Even when it seems to work in the short term, it just leaves you more fearful and disempowered around your work, and thus less able to do it in the future.
Fortunately, however, the world seems to be catching on. Rosanne Cash got a lot of pushback on her tweet, including this beaut—
No pressure but anyone not writing King Lear right now is a worthless piece of shit and waste of everyone’s time
—which nails the whole white male privilege thing.
The good news is that you can teach yourself to not be perfectionist. You do this by gently correcting yourself whenever you catch yourself saying, or thinking, some version of, "I should be doing better…." Instead, substitute, "I’m doing the best I can, and that’s okay." (Which may sound trite, or like you’re making excuses, but happens to be the whole truth.)
Keep substituting nonperfectionist for perfectionist language, and you’ll eventually find yourself being naturally nonperfectionist—and happier, calmer, and more productive as a result.
And be sure, when making comparisons, that they’re accurate and balanced. (Or, better yet, stop comparing!)
Take care, stay safe, and thanks to L for the inspiration. (Below, some related links.)